Posts Tagged ‘friends’

Friends are Friends Forever… or something like that.

“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”

Since I’ve started working out in OKC, I currently spend roughly 6 hours on the road each week. (I know. I’m crazy and I drive one hour to work out for 45 minutes and then drive the hour back.) This has actually been a pretty good thing because I am bored on the road and it’s the best time for me to call my friends and catch up with them. (Another disclaimer: I have a headset so I’m not actually driving around with the phone against my ear. Most of the time.) Honestly, if I’m at home, I’m just not often calling.

It’s hard that the majority of my “besties” are way too far away for me to actually drive and see them.  Does it make me seem cool and popular to have friends in other places? They are cool and popular people. Seriously. You should get to know them. 🙂 Ha. Anyway. Still, we talk on the phone and catch up on each other’s lives.  Our conversations wax and wane depending on what’s going on, but we essentially know each other well.

I know that sometimes I complain about a lack of “in the flesh” friends, and I believe that local friends are important, but I can’t discredit the amazing friends I have made in my life.  Many people go through their lives never feeling like they have friends that they can talk to and share their lives with.  I have my husband, whom I love with a depth I can’t explain, but I also have people I can call and share the intimate details of my life with.  Friends still in college. Friends with kids. Friends who force you to argue and think and push yourself. Friends who would take someone out with a crowbar for you if you asked. Friends who would do anything for you. Friends who would call you out on your crap.

Many people go through life without that and I am blessed to have several of those people.  I am not silent about life struggles so if you read this little ol’ blog you know we’ve been through our share.  However, this is one area that I consider myself very rich.

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one” C.S. Lewis
“One measure of friendship consists not in the number of things friends can discuss, but in the number of things they need no longer mention.” Clifton Fadiman

the must-have friends list.

So, as I was driving to Norman at 6:45 this morning, I was thinking about buying a headband. I know what you’re thinking… such deep thoughts, April! Ha. Really, though.  I was thinking about buying a headband, one of those cute embellished ones. 

So, what was my next course of action?  Contact my friend Andrea for advice.

Andrea is one of those people who are always, always, ALWAYS classy.  Seriously.  I’ve thought she was classy since we were 6 and she gave me a Sanrio stationary kit for my birthday.  She is always stylish – the right blend of classic style with a trendy twist.  Seriously.  She’s the kind of girl that I wish I was.  She’s funny, sincere, trustworthy, and I never EVER have to worry about whether she will be honest with me.  She’s the girl that I ask for fashion advice.  

Example: Todd, Andrea and I are at Old Navy and Todd tries on an ugly, puffy, orange vest.

Todd: Doesn’t this make me look McFly?
Andrea: McNo.

She will let me know if jeans tucked into my boots make me look like a OU sorority girl wannabe, or if the flower in my hair makes me look like Billie Holiday or a 5 year old.

I thought to myself this morning: everyone needs this kind of friend.  Then I thought, I really have a great group of must-have friends.  So, I have compiled a little list of a FEW of the wonderful friends I have (this is not comprehensive, it’s just an overview)… types of people I consider a must-have friend.

The best not-my-husband guy friend: Curtis. We might as well have been twins.  We are carbon copies of each other.  He’s one of my husbands’ dear friends, so he can shoot it straight with me and we can gripe to one another Platonically. 

The sweet, April-stop-freaking-out friend:  Erin. This girl is more of my compliment.  She is an optimist, and always SUPER kind and funny and fun. 

The Couple/people who are in your same stage of life friends:  We have a few of those.  Erin and Curtis (see above), John and Azlynn. You need these.  Trust me.  Otherwise, you’ll feel all alone.

The couple a little ahead of you/call for advice friends:  You need these too.  They keep you from freaking out. We are lucky enough to have a few of these too, but Marcus and Tricia come to mind.  Gosh, I LOVED living next door to them.  They were the best.

The faithful, I’ve-got-your-back-no-matter-what friend: This person is the one that you know would be willing to sit in jail beside you. 😉 (Not that I’m advocating jail… I just mean that this person is with you no matter what.)  Nichole.  We share secrets and I know that I can always count on her.  She’s the one who threw me a fantastic baby shower, was there for everything for my wedding even though she lived hours away, and I know that we’ll always been friends even though we don’t live close.

My social justice/political friends: Curtis.  Joel.  These guys push me to think for myself and force me to stay up to date on the issues.  You need these people.  Trust me, the world is a better place with a little less ignorance. 🙂

My online friends:  I can’t begin to list these friends because I have developed quite a few since I have been homebound (aka – a mom), but these are women and men who I haven’t seen in person in years or ever, but I love being a part of their written lives.  Many of them are listed to the right of this post. 🙂

My friends who are family: These people are always a must-have.  Again, I’m not naming any names here, but it’s a crucial part of my life.  You know who you are.

This may have been a bit of a boring post to you, but I was thinking of how thankful I am for these people.  I’m sure I missed some, but this is a general idea.  How about you?  Do you have friends that are must-haves?

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Well, I’m on my way to H-Town!  In a few days, my best friends will be Curtis and Erin McMinn!  I’m overwhelmingly happy for them– and overwhelmed at the sheer volume of stuff on my to-do list!  Oh well– I’ve ran out of time, so I’ll cross my fingers and hope for the best! Usually I like to do things like laundry and leave a clean home when I go somewhere, but forget that!

Curtis and Erin–

I love you two, and I can’t wait to see you.